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How can couples reverse the buildup of resentment once they notice it?

13.06.2025 00:08

How can couples reverse the buildup of resentment once they notice it?

By wanting to truly understand each other, despite feeling unheard.

By learning to validate what the other is feeling. “I can absolutely see why you feel this way.”

By deciding to stop with the criticism and the nagging and instead say thank you for everything you do for me. Thank you for loving me.

When have you been in an accident where the other person involved blatantly lied to the police about what transpired?

By internalizing that responding with kindness is strength, not weakness.

By keeping in mind it’s OK to have different opinions and different experiences, and they both matter in equal measure.

By giving up the notion that someone has to “win” or that anyone loses by saying “you are right”, “I am sorry”, or “I can do better.”

Do Marines really not need sleep during combat training or in general? If this is true, how and why is this possible?

By resolving to listen with curiosity rather than defensiveness.

By taking turns talking.